Believe it or not, hostility between you and a man can be a sign of secret attraction. I know it sounds crazy, but it’s true. Why? Because many men and women find that their immediate response when they first meet someone who attracts them sexually–especially if they’re in a situation where it’s not cool to be attracted to that person–is to be hostile to them.
This is not as weird as you might think. It’s actually quite usual and very natural. What’s going on here? Well, it’s a way of concealing our true feelings and of protecting ourselves if we feel like we’re not ready to let someone know we’re attracted to them.
How does this happen? It can happen if one of the two people is already with someone else, or if they recently broke up and aren’t ready to get involved yet, or they don’t feel comfortable at the party…or maybe they’re just afraid or somewhat shy.